I was reflecting on this subject, and how I came to be a martial arts teacher, and how my children have no choice but to train (including my younger siblings). I realized that a lifelong Martial Arts teacher will make his children “favorite students”.
Besides love, knowledge of family history, and religion, what can we bequeath to our children, but a skill or trade we learned in our lifetime? How many times have you seen the child of a great singer and expected that kid to be a chip off the old block? Or a great athlete’s child? Or a scholar? We actually expect the children of great men and women to learn from their parents–whether by genetics or by osmosis–and to excel as they had been around their parents and their parents’ craft all their lives. This is not an absurd idea: parents who love their children and love their children will want to share their gifts with them.
For the martial arts Master, this is a subject closer to home. We have no control over our students’ lives, but we certainly have control over our children’s lives. If ever we were to develop the perfect martial arts fighter, what better guinea pig to do this with but our own children? I am not talking about Wu Bin-style cruelty that does not fit in the western idea of martial arts training, but is guaranteed to produce only the best martial artists in the world… but then again, I am. In my own upbringing, I was not allowed to date, join school sports, or run the streets and instead only had the martial arts and boxing to occupy my time. By the time I was in high school, I was old enough to cut school and communicate with kids who thought my family was wierd, but I chose to continue on the path I was raised on. There were definitely struggles, but in the end my mother was right on the money, and I am glad she and my grandparents stayed on me to stick with my martial arts.
You will find that the offspring of great men and women who live up to their parents’ greatness and onlookers’ expectations lived this same life.
At the same time, I have seen the children of great martial artists who couldn’t hold their father’s jock straps. I have also seen feuds where the son was nowhere around when Dad was training his students, and now that Dad is dead and gone, the son resurfaces to call himself the “New Grandmaster”, by birthright. WRONG. You see, birthright is bestowed upon birth, but your place must still be earned. You cannot expect others to respect you just because you share facial features and the same last name. You must pay your dues when you are young, and work your way up through the ranks like everyone else did. Even when you are in a system that passes father to son, as a son, you must earn your stripes among your father’s generals when you are young. And when it’s your turn to take the reins, they will be behind you 100%.
As the Master, you must make sure your children AND your students understand this. I would hope that if I died tomorrow, my students will continue the training I am giving my children and make sure they walk in my footsteps. I believe by genetics my kids will excel in the martial arts and remain in this life. But I want them to earn their knowledge as I did. Your generals must be humble enough to handle this and see it through. Your kids must have the name, the respect and the skills to stand alone as you have when you are gone.
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Just remembered something. As teachers, we must get our children out into the community so that they will know people and so that people will know them. This includes fighting in tournaments and accompanying you to events. They must be with you in the classroom when you are teaching, and when they are old enough, teach as well. As children, they must train every day, and you must ensure that they become better than you were (as you should for all of your students). This is how you raise children in the martial arts.
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